Are you done with feeling disappointed and down about your love life? Are you tired of your dates leading to dead-ends? Are you over falling for people who aren't right for you?

If so, I know how you feel. I've been there.

I've had long periods of singleness, plenty of disastrous or dismal dates and numerous dysfunctional relationships, ending in pain and heartache. I've spent lots of money on dating websites but failed to arrange any dates, or I've gone along to dates and left feeling uninspired and dispirited. I've run away from or sabotaged healthy relationships and I've fallen for the wrong guys - commitment-phobes and emotionally unavailable types - over and over again. 


Not anymore. 

I learned to date differently, with courage, clarity and confidence. 

As I did so, I fell in love with a wonderful man whom I married in 2019.

I'm now helping other women to change their patterns of behaviour so that they can form healthy and loving relationships, and I would love to help you to do the same with this online course.

Date with Courage, Clarity & Confidence builds on my first course, How to Fall in Love - Laying the Foundations, which explores our connection to ourselves and our feelings, self-esteem, self-worth and confidence, fears and patterns in relationships and letting go. If you'd like to take the Foundations course first, please click here to return to the main menu. It's available as a small group course or as a self-paced course. 


This transformational course will guide and support you to change your dating dynamic so that you can enjoy the dating process, form a healthy relationship and find love. 

The course combines insightful video content with practical exercises and time for self-reflection. It's designed to help you to revive your dating journey and move towards the relationship you want.

This course is self-paced so you take it in your own time and go at your own rhythm. If you'd like additional support, you can include a 1:1 coaching call in your package by clicking on the VIP option at the bottom of this page. If you'd like to add additional calls, please email me and I can create a bespoke package for you:

If you'd prefer to journey through this course as part of a small group of like-minded women, please take a look at the group version of the course, which you'll find on the main course menu. The group version offers an even more powerful experience. It includes group coaching calls, a buddy system and a supportive Facebook community.

Watch the video below for more information about the course and then click on the 'Free Preview' button at the top of the page or under the 'What You'll Learn' section below to watch more preview videos. 

Please note: you may hear or read references to a five-week course. I originally designed this course to be taken over five weeks but following feedback from many women who've taken this course, I now suggest that it's taken over 12 weeks, with an introductory week, two weeks for each one of the five steps and a consolidation week at the end. I believe this pace will give you the time you need to delve deep into the content as well as to take practical actions on your dating journey.

And remember, if you feel you'd like to do some work on your foundations before taking the dating course, take a look at the Laying the Foundations course via the main menu. This is also available as a self-paced course or a group course.


Empowering you to date joyfully and successfully

  • How to nurture an optimistic, growth mindset in relation to love and dating, irrespective of your past experiences, and maintain a sense of hope and enthusiasm throughout your dating journey.

  • Why you are attracted to certain people and put off by others; why you blow hot and cold in relationships - one minute you're in love, the next you're repulsed; and why you sabotage healthy relationships.

  • How to become attracted to different types of people and let go of your usual types so that you can date in a bigger pool and find a healthy partnership.

  • How to make time for love and prioritise dating and your romantic life, rather than focusing on work or other people's needs.

  • How to set healthy and loving boundaries for dating and keep to those boundaries, so that you can date with confidence and choose rather than wait to be chosen.

  • How to create an exciting vision for your life and make bold choices so that you can achieve your dreams and feel fulfilled at work, at home and in love.

  • How to maintain self-loving and resilience-building practices that will support you through your dating journey and throughout your future relationship.


This course is packed with practical tips & exercises

  • 2
    Cementing Your Foundations
    • Video: Welcome to Day One
    • How to Use This Course Player
    • Embracing Imperfection
    • Video: Your Healthy Foundations FREE PREVIEW
    • Video: Getting Ready to Date
    • Exercise: Your Self-Care Practices
    • Meditation to Support Your Connection to Self
    • Welcome to Day Two
    • Video: Set Your Intention
    • Exercise: Set Your Intention
    • Welcome to Day Three
    • Video: How Is Your Mindset?
    • Exercise: How Is Your Mindset?
    • Video: Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset
    • Reflection: Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset
    • Welcome to Day Four
    • Video: How to Stay Hopeful
    • Exercise: How to Stay Hopeful
    • Welcome to Day Five
    • Video: How Open Is Your Heart?
    • Exercise: How Open Is My Heart?
    • Coronavirus Caveat
    • Video: An Open-Hearted Challenge
    • Cheatsheet: How To Connect & Flirt
  • 3
    Step One - Understand Your Trigger Points
    • Introducing the Five Steps
    • Step One - Understand Your Trigger Points FREE PREVIEW
    • Step One: Understand Your Trigger Points FREE PREVIEW
    • Video: What Is a Dating Trigger Point?
    • Exercise: Blowing Hot and Cold
    • Video: Healthy Attraction Vs. Unhealthy Triggers
    • Video: My Trigger Points
    • Exercise: Your Trigger Points
    • Welcome to Day Two
    • Video: What's Going On?
    • Video: Understanding the Mirror
    • Exercise: Understanding the Mirror
    • Welcome to Day Three
    • Video: What's the Solution?
    • Video: Loving All of Yourself
    • Video: Self-Love Meditation
    • Continuing on This Self-Accepting Path
    • Welcome to Day Four
    • Video: Extending Empathy
    • Getting Over My Blocks
    • Video: Healthy Self-Esteem
    • Video: We Can't Change Them
    • Exercise: We Can't Change Them
    • Video: Keep the Focus on You
    • Welcome to Day Five
    • Video: Your Inner Saboteur
    • Video: Is it Fear or Is it Instinct?
    • Video: Fear Vs Instinct? Finding Your Answer
    • Exercise: Fear or Instinct? Finding Your Answer
    • Video: Date When You're Well
    • Dating Is a Two-Way Street
    • Video: Wrapping Up
    • Exercise: Wrapping Up
  • 4
    Step Two - Throw Away the List
    • Video: Welcome To Step Two
    • Step Two - Throw Away the List FREE PREVIEW
    • Video: How We Heal
    • Video: Do You Have a List?
    • Exercise: Your List
    • Welcome to Day Two
    • Video: My List and Type
    • Exercise: Are You Drawn to the Familiar?
    • Video: Capacity for Intimacy
    • Exercise: Capacity for Intimacy
    • Reading: Instant Fireworks or the Slow Burn?
    • Welcome to Day Three
    • Video: Is Your List Realistic?
    • Reflection: Is My List Realistic?
    • Video: Are You Seeking a Carbon Copy?
    • Video: Values & Compatibility
    • Exercise: Values & Compatibility
    • Welcome to Day Four
    • Video: Creating a Vision
    • Exercise - Creating a Vision
    • Video: What Really Matters?
    • Video: Should I Settle?
    • Media Interview: Has Settling Got a Bad Rap?
    • Exercise: Any Red Lines?
    • Welcome to Day Five
    • Video: Feeling Over Thinking
    • Exercise: Feeling Vs. Thinking
    • Video: Expanding the Dating Pool
    • Video: Your Challenge
    • Video: Looking for 'The One'?
    • Video: Wrapping Up Step Two
    • Exercise: Wrapping Up Step Two
  • 5
    Step Three - Make Time for Love
    • Step Three - Make Time for Love FREE PREVIEW
    • Step Three - Make Time For Love FREE PREVIEW
    • Video: Welcome to Day One
    • Exercise: How Do You Spend Your Time?
    • Video: Track Your Time
    • Exercise: Track Your Time
    • Welcome to Day Two
    • Video: Do You Have a Choice?
    • Exercise: Do I Have a Choice?
    • Video: What's Driving How You Spend Your Time?
    • Exercise: What Drives Me?
    • Video: What Else Might You Be Avoiding?
    • Exercise: Am I Avoiding My Feelings?
    • Welcome to Day Three
    • Video: Design Your Life
    • Your Wheel of Life
    • Wheel of Life Template
    • Wheel of Life Template With Titles
    • Exercise: Filling In Your Wheel of Life
    • Example: My Wheel of Life
    • Welcome to Day Four
    • Video: Improve Your Life
    • Exercise: Improve Your Life With Tiny Actions
    • Video: Improving Your Love Life
    • Checklist: How to Improve Your Love Life
    • Video: Outwitting Your Saboteur
    • Welcome to Day Five
    • Video: Keeping the Promises You Make to Yourself
    • Exercise: Getting Support to Keep Your Promises
    • Video: Plan Your Time
    • Exercise: Plan Your Time
    • Example Time Plan (Partially & Imperfectly Coloured In)
    • Video: Imagine Your Future
    • Exercise: Imagine Your Future
    • Video: Wrapping Up
  • 6
    Step Four - Set Healthy & Loving Boundaries
    • Step Four - Set Healthy & Loving Boundaries FREE PREVIEW
    • Step Four - Set Healthy & Loving Boundaries FREE PREVIEW
    • Welcome to Day One
    • Video: What Do We Mean By Boundaries?
    • Video: Why We Need Boundaries
    • Video: Developing Boundaries
    • Exercise: My Experience of Boundaries
    • Welcome to Day Two
    • Video: Boundaries with Ourselves
    • Exercise: Boundaries with Ourselves
    • Video: Engaging with Dating
    • Exercise: Engaging with dating
    • Video: Setting Boundaries with Others
    • Exercise: Boundaries with Others
    • Welcome to Day Three
    • Video: How to Set Boundaries
    • Checklist: How to Set Boundaries
    • Video: Boundaries for Dating
    • Exercise: Boundaries Around Communication
    • Video: How to Communicate
    • Cheatsheet: How to Approach People
    • Welcome to Day Four
    • Video: Where to Meet?
    • Exercise: Where to Meet
    • Video: Boundaries Around Booze
    • Exercise: My Boundaries Around Booze
    • Video: Boundaries Around Sex
    • Exercise: My Physical Boundaries
    • Welcome to Day Five
    • Video: My Breakthrough Around Boundaries
    • Video: How Much to Share
    • Exercise: How Much to Share
    • Video: Reining in Your Thoughts
    • Exercise: Boundaries Around Our Thoughts
    • Video: Holding Your Boundaries
    • Exercise: Getting Support to Hold Your Boundaries
    • Video: Holding on to Yourself
    • Video: Wrapping up
    • Exercise: Wrapping Up Step Four
  • 7
    Step Five: Make Bold Choices
    • Step Five - Make Bold Choices FREE PREVIEW
    • Step Five - Make Bold Choices FREE PREVIEW
    • Welcome to Week Five
    • Bold Versus Safe Choices
    • Exercise: Bold Versus Safe Choices
    • Video: Making Decisions
    • Exercise: Making Decisions
    • Welcome to Day Two
    • Video: Soothing Ourselves
    • Exercise: Soothing Yourself
    • Video: In Whom Do You Trust?
    • Exercise: In Whom Do You Trust?
    • Welcome to Day Three
    • Video: Feel the Fear
    • Exercise: Feel the Fear
    • Video: You Are Dating Differently
    • Video: Choosing to Love Someone
    • Exercise: Choosing to Love Someone
    • Optional Content: Is Motherhood For Me?
    • Optional Video: Is Motherhood For Me?
    • Optional - Reflection: Is Motherhood For Me?
    • Video: How Can I Be Sure?
    • Exercise: How Will I Know?
    • Welcome to Day Four
    • Video: Your Authentic Life
    • Reflection: Am I Dating in the Right Pool?
    • Creative Exercise: What You'll Need
    • Video: Getting Ready to Design Your Life
    • Video: Imagine Your Dream Life
    • Exercise: My Dream Life
    • Welcome to Day Five
    • Video: Make It Happen
    • Exercise: Make It Happen
    • Video: Committing to Yourself
    • Exercise: Committing to Myself
    • Video: Why It Matters
    • Video: Take Baby Steps
    • Video: Wrapping Up Step Five
    • Exercise: Wrapping Up Step Five
  • 8
    Consolidation Week
    • Video: Wrapping Up This Course
    • Exercise: Wrapping Up This Course
    • Date With Courage, Clarity & Confidence Checklist
    • Video: What Next?
    • What Next? Working With Me


"I feel more confident and more hopeful"

"I feel like a different person and I'm not exaggerating"

Hear Alice's journey through Date with Courage, Clarity & Confidence and Laying the Foundations

"I definitely feel like I have more clarity about myself and my approach to dating"

Hear Joss talk about her experience of Date with Courage, Clarity & Confidence


  • Insightful Video Tutorials

    You'll receive insightful video tutorials in digestible chunks. I'll guide you through the course exercises, sharing my story and my experience of coaching people like you into healthy relationships, along with practical tools from the fields of coaching and psychotherapy to help you to change your dating dynamic.

  • Transformational Exercises

    You'll be invited to do several written exercises or reflective exercises every week. These exercises will help you to grow in self-awareness and make meaningful, incremental progress towards your life and love goals.

  • Lifelong Access

    You'll have lifelong access to all the video tutorials and course materials so that you can revisit the steps whenever you choose. You'll also receive discounts off future courses, workshops and retreats, in the UK and abroad.

  • Self-Paced

    Take the course at your own pace in the comfort of your own home or watch the material while on the move. You can take the course in as little as 5 weeks if you have lots of spare time but I recommend you take it over 12 weeks, especially if you have a busy life. It's entirely up to you.

  • Drip-fed Content

    The course content will be drip fed to you via the course platform in manageable chunks, allowing you space and time to delve deeply into the exercises and to pause whenever you wish.

  • Optional 1:1 Coaching Call

    You'll have the option to upgrade to a VIP package, which includes a 60-minute, 1:1 coaching call with me. The additional cost is £150 (saving £50 on my standard single session rate). If you'd like to add a number of calls, please email me for a bespoke package.



Katherine's How to Fall in Love course is exceptional


"Katherine's How to Fall in Love course is exceptional. It helps you in so many ways, besides intimacy and falling in love. Katherine brings back hope into your life and gives you just the right balance of gentle encouragement, personal insight and expert coaching. What’s more you feel that Katherine genuinely cares. She’s thinking of you even during ‘out of office’ hours. With Katherine’s support, I found the courage to proactively approach and start a new relationship with a caring and loving man. My eyes were open to all the pitfalls of my past and I was dating with an awareness I had never had before."

I've eventually allowed myself to open up and trust myself and my new boyfriend


"Katherine taught us how to listen to ourselves, to do things that truly make us feel alive and to test out our discoveries. I've eventually allowed myself (and am still allowing myself) to open up and trust myself and my now boyfriend, who feels just right, although quite different from what I imagined. I'm now starting to imagine a future for myself with a truly amazing, fun and secure person, which I had never thought possible or experienced before. I would recommend Katherine's course, book and Facebook group as a place to join with others on a journey of discovery, connection and courage. It will soften, challenge and inspire you."

I was lost as to why I couldn't find love


"I was lost as to why I couldn’t find love. Katherine helped me to look at my relationship history from a very different perspective and to understand who I am and why I am how I am. Most importantly, she helped me to discover a pathway to get me to where I wish to be. I'll be eternally grateful that I took the plunge and trusted Katherine with my innermost thoughts and feelings"

Suddenly, love came naturally to me


"Katherine's coaching has been incredibly helpful and so worth the investment. With Katherine's guidance, I finally dared to fully embrace and love myself and to believe that I am worthy of being loved. Not long after that, I entered into a new relationship. Suddenly, love came naturally to me. Katherine continues to guide me, helping me to see that it is safe to be vulnerable and authentic in my relationship - that it is safe to be me"

One of the best investments in myself that I have ever made


"I chose to work with Katherine as my coach for a number of reasons - in particular the combination of her professional credibility and experience with her personal integrity and honesty. It's difficult to express how great a help and support she was to me during this challenging period. I think my coaching with Katherine is one of the best investments in myself that I have ever made and I highly recommend her services"

Katherine has helped me to see the blocks I've had to intimacy


"I would have absolutely no hesitation in recommending Katherine to help and guide you through the emotional rollercoaster of dating and relationships. Katherine has helped me to see the blocks I have had to intimacy and relationships and helped me to understand when it is my intuition or my fear that's telling me to run a mile. Katherine's approach is a delightful mix of wisdom, gentleness, honesty, authenticity and humour”

We've got to the bottom of stuff that I've never been able to understand before


"My experience of working with Katherine has been really profound. She is very very good at what she does. We've got to the bottom of stuff that I've never been able to understand before"

Katherine has been where I am so I trust her experience


“Katherine's course has helped me to stop letting my imagination run riot but instead to focus on the practical steps I can take to create the life I want. She has taught me so much. Because Katherine takes my welfare in the world of dating seriously, so do I. She is encouraging and understanding. She's been where I am so I trust her experience"

I'm in an entirely different place to a month ago


"I have found the course to be incredibly powerful in changing my mindset and attitude. I feel like I am in an entirely different place to where I was a month ago, mentally, emotionally and physically."

A really wonderful, positive experience


This course has been a really wonderful, positive experience. If I compare how I felt five weeks ago to how I feel now, I feel much calmer, much stronger and much less panicky. The best thing about this course is that it teaches you to be strong and resilient and to source your own happiness, so that you are ready to meet someone. I'm more aware of my attitudes and I feel more positive and confident about who I am and about what I want from somebody - and what I don't want from somebody"


Transformational Coach, Midlife Mentor, Author, Speaker

Katherine is an intuitive love, dating and relationships coach, a midlife mentor and the author of How to Fall in Love - A 10-Step Journey to the Heart.  

Drawing on her own experience of healing from dysfunctional relationship patterns and falling in love in her forties, Katherine helps women and men to transform their relationships with themselves, understand and change their dating patterns, create lives they love and find love.
Katherine coaches one-to-one and hosts courses, workshops and transformational retreats, in the UK and abroad. She also writes for the national media on love, dating, relationships and personal development, including a regular blog for Psychologies magazine.
Suzy Greaves, editor of Psychologies magazine, described Katherine's book as "a wonderful handbook on relationships, which requires you to be brave, dig deep and face your fears about falling in love."
Katherine is a former international and political correspondent for the global news agencies Reuters and Bloomberg. As well as a compassionate and intuitive coach, she is an excellent communicator and a skilled trainer.

Katherine married her partner, Bill, in June 2019. It was a happy day, as the photograph below shows.


  • When does the course start?

    The course begins as soon as you enroll. You'll have access to Day One's content immediately. Following that, the course materials will be drip fed to you every day, with some rest and reflective days. You are encouraged to take time off at the weekend to process your feelings as well as to take some dating actions.

  • When is my 1:1 coaching call?

    If you opt to include a 1:1 coaching call with your course for an additional fee of £150, you can take this at any point during the course or within three months of purchasing the course. Coaching calls can be arranged from Monday to Friday between 9 am and 6:15 pm.

  • How much time does the course take?

    The more time you put in, the more you will get out of the course, but I understand you have a busy life. The course begins with a preparation week and then each of the five steps can be taken in one week but I recommend you take two weeks per step, followed by a final consolidation week. So that's a 12-week programme. It would be great if you could set aside at least 20 minutes each day to reflect on the course materials and complete any exercises, or you can save your course materials for a free day and spend an hour or two on the course in a block. You will also need 1 hour for your individual coaching call, should you choose that option.

  • What if I can't afford the course?

    I appreciate this course requires a financial commitment from you but I believe that this commitment will be game-changing. You'll be investing in your hopes, dreams and future happiness. You'll be taking your romantic life seriously and giving it the importance it deserves. And you'll be saving yourself time, energy, heartache and money by no longer wasting your time on disastrous dates or online dating sites that don't yield results. That said, I'd like the course to be accessible to as many women as possible and I am able to offer flexible payment plans so if you need to pay in installments, contact me at

  • Can I talk to Katherine before investing in the course?

    Of course! If you'd like to speak to me about the course before deciding whether to join, email and we'll set up a 30-minute discovery call or click on the free discovery call button on the course page. I'd be happy to answer your questions.


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